Weddings just seem to be a fairy tale, don’t they? I know that I adored my wedding, and it was all that I wanted it to be + some. 🙂 It might seem that every anniversary after our wedding day should go perfectly, right?
Probably not. 😉 Keep scrolling to read about our first anniversary and why I’m done with expectations.
My plan for our anniversary was pretty simple. Our anniversary is July 2, so we would head up to Shenandoah on the evening of the 1st and stay in a cabin. The next day, we would do some exploring and then head back that afternoon to enjoy the rest of the weekend at home. Easy peasy, right?
This is what actually happened.
Alex had to work the morning of the 1st, so I spent that morning getting us all packed for our trip ( we were bringing the dogs, so it was a bit more than just a backpack ) and running out to pick up our anniversary cake. Around noon, we were ready to hit the road. Within 5 seconds of leaving the driveway…a fight broke out between the two of us. Don’t ask me what it was about because I don’t even know anymore, but a silly argument turned into a 30 minute fight in the car. As soon as the arguing ended, we hit traffic. Traffic was STOPPED. We ended up sitting at the same spot in the road for about 30-45 minutes which actually wasn’t too bad. However, when we looked at the GPS, we saw that there were at least 5 accidents up ahead on the very first leg of the trip. At this point, without any delays, we wouldn’t make it to the cabin until about 6-7…but there were obviously going to be delays.
We decided not to go, forfeit the money the cabin costed, and try to make a good weekend at home. We decided to head to the park to walk the dogs since they had been waiting so patiently in the truck this whole time. It started raining the moment we let them out of the truck at the park. We packed up again and decided to try again later. I’ll spare you the details of the entire weekend, but some other highlights were us feeling a bit off balance and not in the mood to be intimate, me falling asleep in the middle of a movie in the romantic fort that Alex made for me, and me dropping our anniversary cake straight out of the refrigerator onto the floor this morning. Don’t get me wrong, none of these things are horrible and everyone is safe and together, so I truly am still counting my blessings. It’s just been hard to shake the frustrations when we had such great plans!
What have I learned from this?
- It’s not so much about the anniversary plans, gifts, or even memories together as it is about the fact that we are married. We’re one flesh! I have a life partner! We are blessed. Sometimes it’s so easy to get caught up in all the “things” that when stuff goes wrong, it’s nearly impossible to just roll with it. I want to focus more on being content in the moment…regardless of what the day throws at us.
- God obviously had other plans. Our plan for the trip to Shenandoah was a good one…God willing. And it seems that He had another plan for us. Maybe things didn’t work out because he wanted us to learn a hard lesson about contentment and expectations. Maybe we were meant to treasure each other more than a vacation this weekend. I don’t know exactly what His reasoning was, but I’m trusting that it’s better than what I had planned.
- Expectations are good sometimes, but not always. My expectations for this super, romantic, amazing trip were seriously getting in the way of just being grateful for my husband and our life together. This weekend is all about remembering how lucky we are and rejoicing in the year that we had together. Somewhere along the way, I had forgotten that. But…this long weekend isn’t over, and you can bet I’m making the most of things now!
Keep loving. Keep trying. Keep trusting. Keep believing. Keep growing. Heaven is cheering you on today, tomorrow, and forever. -Jeffery R. Holland
Let’s chat! Did your anniversary go as planned? Tell us about a time that things went south and how you dealt with it!